MILITARY CHECK POINTS

This morning I learned that majority of the husbands away for training have in fact, been able to stay in contact with their wives via internet such as email and/or Facebook. I do not know the details or the extent of such a luxury, but I can tell you, I have not been one of them. It would be very easy for both ego and anxiety to take the wheel and drive this mental bus right off the cliff of fear. But as I have blogged about before and learned throughout my Life Caching Certifications, fear is a damn liar. As a military wife, I see it all too often that we are each quick to compare lives, stories, and husband's. That would be a grave mistake. I am much older than most inside this community, so I work my ass off trying to lead by example and rock that "big sister" vibe. Today would be one of those times.

Before getting lost inside the "he doesn't really love me" merri-go-round thoughts of pure suck, it is important to PAUSE. The pause button is everything. Pause is what drives my bus. It has to be in this life! With so much separation you need to not only stand firm in your confidence within yourself, but within the perimeters of your marriage. For a brief moment this morning, my heart fell heavy and I started to allow my mind to convince me of things simply not true. So I hit "pause." I tapped into what I KNOW, not the story we tell ourselves. I tuned into the reality of the situation and truly remembered WHO my husband is, how he shows love, how he receives love, and all his personality traits. Like, the fact that his cell phone sits with over 12,000 unread emails that date back to 2014. One of my favorite quotes that I spit out occasionally is "remember who you are." So I said to myself, "remember who WE are." Now is the time to create healthy habits. Deployments are long, but marriages are longer.

To all my MILSO sisters: Do not get lost in the shuffle of the community gossip and stay true to the fact that you know his soul. I promise, no matter what, he is missing you.

....and I too, shall re-read this a couple more times today.


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